Was having this conversation with my friends about us human being selfish.
Yes, most people detest selfish people. Being selfless is more highly looked upon. But is it possible to be 100% selfless in life?
For me, being selfish to a certain extent is necessary. For instance, when it comes to love, I don't believe in the saying 'if u love someone, it is enough to see him/her happy'. I believe in doing something to make both of us happy.
I believe that in a relationship, love goes both ways. If it only goes one way, then this is only one-way love, it is not a relationship.
I am selfish when it comes to Peter. Peter must only love me alone and no one else. Romantically I mean. Of course he can love Shern, his parents, his friends, etc. Not another woman.
I don't believe in sharing Peter romantically. I am one selfish person when it comes to love.
However, I believe love can be multiplied. Family love for instance. I love Shern as much as I love Peter. I don't love Peter less now that Shern is here. These 2 are different kind of love. Don't ever ask me to choose between them two. No reason to anyway.
We must be selfish enough to defend ourselves. If not, the other person will step over our head and take advantage of us.
Being selfish to a certain extent is practical living. :)